Authentic

A little life management

Posted on Jun 3, 2013 | 5 comments

There will always be more to do in a day than I can fit in. For me, life management is all about setting and sticking to my priorities.

 

One aspect of adult life that I’ve struggled with is managing priorities. I’ve always had a bit of duality about my personality- I throw myself whole heartedly into what I do but there’s always something new pulling my attention away.

As a kid/young adult, it meant that I was the high school student that took want to learn odd things. As a college student, it meant I had more minors than I knew what to do with and couldn’t make up my mind about my major.

Now, as an adult I am balancing the needs/wants of my son, my husband, my extended family, my friends, various social obligations……oh, and I have a goal or two.

It’s not that any of those people or groups are in my life reluctantly.These are people and groups that I care about, that I’m invested in. But good lord. There’s only so much of me to go around.

Now, the one lesson that I have learned as an adult is that if I am clear about expressing what I just can’t do the people in my life are pretty good about adjusting- although there may be some grumbling. Those unreasonable demands are my creation, based on this idea that there are so many things that I need to do.

Let’s be totally honest for a minute. In reality, I need to perform basic functions to keep myself alive (the whole eating and sleeping, etc). I need to provide my son with what he needs to grow up safely and with the necessary life skills to function. Everything else is a choice- how I fulfill those basic needs, the other things I choose to do with my time and energy. These needs and “wants” are something that I’ve created. Which means that is up to me how busy I am, how tired I am, how spread thin I am.

Now, I’m not saying that these choices are easy. Far from it. But acknowledging that I’m tired and spread thin because of my own choices means that I have the ability to say no, to change those choices.

Sometimes, we need to take a moment and reexamine those choices. Make sure we’re spending our time in accordance to our priorities. And that we’ve put some thought into those priorities.

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Working Mom❙Building an Authentic Plate

Posted on May 29, 2013 | 4 comments

Working Mom- mommy guilt, challenges and exhaustion

This month has meant a HUGE life change for me.

I went back to work.

For the first time in almost five years, my schedule does not revolve around the needs of a certain small person.

I speak to adults every day. I’m using my brain in fun and challenging ways. I’m contributing to our household income.

I’m exhausted.

I’m plagued by mom guilt.

I haven’t quite figured out how to balance my workload, the things that need to get down around the house, my “fun” (riding my horse), spending time with my little guy (oh, and my husband)  and my workout. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

Serious kudos to all my working mom friends.

I know that it’s a matter of priorities. It’s a matter of making choices. But I certainly haven’t figured it out.

Just to hammer home the impact of this change, I’m now the heaviest I’ve been since my pregnancy. I weigh less when I left the hospital with little man. How’s that for a sucker punch? I am in desperate need of some of that priority making.

*sigh*

I know this is just one small step in my journey. I am definitely fortunate to have been able to not just work- but to have a career that allows me to work from home so that I am still able to be around for my little guy when I need to be. My husband has a career that he loves.

But, man. I’m so,so tired.

Any tips? Any of my working moms found something super helpful in keeping your home running with less effort?

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Navigating Nutrition

Posted on May 27, 2013 | Comments Off on Navigating Nutrition

I am firmly not a fan of fad diets.

 

In fact, I’m not a fan of *dieting* at all. I am a fan of good quality ingredients, carefully prepared: mostly vegetables, the highest quality proteins I can get, and  supplemented with fruits and grains in moderation.

 

For the last 2 and half or so years, we’ve worked towards a “primal” diet with various degrees of success. Our adherence tends to pendulum swing based on the degree that my husband’s GI issues are bothering him. We were initially encouraged to try the Paleo/Primal approach to nutrition by my husband’s Special Forces doctors as they struggled to find the appropriate treatment for his undiagnosed GI issues. It turned out that while he struggled with the lack of processed food, our son and I felt wonderful and were satisfied.

 

But if any of you have ever tried to drag a reluctant spouse along on a “diet” you know how incredibly subtle the undermining can be. And like sailing with your anchor down, that undermining can have a disastrous impact on even the best laid plans.

 

As if navigating the ever changing, variety of opinions about nutrition wasn’t hard enough!

 

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Struggling with frustration

Posted on May 27, 2013 | Comments Off on Struggling with frustration

More than any other emotion, I struggle with frustration.

 

Frustration that my doctor’s don’t seem to take my struggle with fatigue, wildly fluctuating weight and constant underlying malaise seriously.

 

Frustration that my lifestyle changes don’t seem to cause any noticable change except a fitter, trimmer husband and a more substantial grocery budget.

 

Frustration with myself for getting frustrated and disappointed and giving up.

 

So, I struggle. I resign myself to the idea that nothing is going to change.

 

Then I remember that I want more. I want to feel good- in health, emotionally and with the way that I look. I need to be able to keep up with my oh-so-active almost four year old. I have things to check off my “dream big” list that require me to be physically fit.


It’s to on the next round of planning meals, finding new ways to fit in workouts and balancing the appetites of my son and bottom-less pit, eat anything husband.  For a little while longer, I’ll work on taming the frustration. In hopes that *this* time, there will be enough progress to motivate, to keep going, to feel like all this effort is making a difference.

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Turning 30

Posted on Apr 5, 2013 | Comments Off on Turning 30

Do you know that vague, unsettled feeling that creeps in around the edges of everyday life?

Nothing is really wrong exactly but something isn’t working. And, to be honest, it really lies with my own dissatisfaction- with myself.

I’ve been struggling with my weight now since the beginning of 2008- when I gained 50 lbs in less than 3 months after getting the “birth control shot”. And nothing has made all that much of a difference.

On top of that, the last two years the Army has left us in Missouri have not been exactly kind to my health. Apparently, my body is not a fan of the midwest. I’ve dealt with allergies that have increasingly interfered with my ability to function- including sinus pressure migraines that cause nausea and make it difficult to drive.

It’s forced to me to slow down and reduce my obligations because I simply don’t have the energy or emotional resources that I used to.

I’m not sure what my next move will be.

But my 30th year needs to be better than the last one. This unsettled feeling needs to go.

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Back from the web-hinterlands

Posted on Mar 5, 2013 | Comments Off on Back from the web-hinterlands

Yes, yes, I committed that worst of blogging sins- I walked away. Completely. For a while.

Sometimes, when you’re spinning too many plates (and none of them terribly well) you just have to let them fall and be okay with it.

And I’m trying to let myself be okay with that :) It’s still a work in progress. BUT …..I’ve come back and am working on a whole new look for this site.

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Want to know what else I’ve been up in the last few months?

I’ve been working with the lovely ladies over at Army Wife Network as the Blog Coordinator- wrangling the 20+ contributor blog Loving A Soldier.

I’ve been shifting the focus of my business from strictly photography to social media marketing and business coaching, going to back to my first career.

I moved my horse to my wonderful trainer’s facility- which meant a lot more driving for me (she’s over an hour away) but huge gains in my riding. That work also led to finding my horse an absolutely perfect-for-him new home and my trainer helping me find my very own “Barbie horse”, Valiant.

I’m back in school, working towards my R.D.

Oh, and there’s that whole having a family thing!

So…..I’ve been busy. But I miss blogging. I enjoy sharing the healthy, satisfying recipes that I find or develop. Which brings me back here. I’m reworking my weekly menus, embarking on a new half marathon training schedule (next 5k is March 16th!) and aiming for some horse shows this summer. Come on in and share what you’re up to.

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